Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

“New Year. New You.” Ugh.

Tuesday, January 12th, 2010

If you are anything like me, you are beyond sick of hearing about everyone’s grandiose new years resolutions that they most likely will never live out. And do you know why the majority of these people will not actually accomplish their resolutions? Because their goals are unrealistic. Unless you are undergoing surgery or you are on the American show, “the biggest loser,” you aren’t going to be losing 100 pounds by February.

That being said, many of us, including me, would like to be healthier and I could definitively stand to lose some weight. So, I have some tips for those of us wanting to be realistic about getting ourselves back to fighting weight.  Being that this is the beginning of a new year, it is a good place to start. Don’t be overwhelmed, be excited! There is no need to make yourself new, just better.

1. Like discussed above, make realistic goals for your work out and weight loss. A good, realistic benchmark a lot of professional trainers use is 2lbs per week for the average person. So shoot for 2 lbs, not 10.
2. Make 3 meals a week vegetarian. This means cutting out meat, and eating only fish, pasta, whole grains, dried beans, nuts, fresh fruits, and vegetables.
3. Cut out the soda and sugary drinks. Reach for tea or water instead.
4. Have black coffee instead of frappacino in the morning. If you need your caffeine like I do, a good alternative to the sugary and calorie-filled “froo-froo” coffee (as my partner likes to call it) is either straight black coffee or tea. Tea has healthy antioxidant properties while delivering your morning energy punch. But make sure the tea has caffeine because not all teas are caffeinated.
5. Try to get your heart rate up once a day for at least 20 minutes. Shoot for 30 if you can. This means something different for everyone so do only what you can. If you work 8-5 and are also the backbone of a family of 5, an hour long stint at the gym after work may not be for you. So take a 20 minute walk at work, or ask your whole family to go for a short walk after dinner. If you are single with a flexible work schedule, you may be able to hit the gym and a yoga class in one day. That’s great. But don’t stress yourself out by saying you need to get in an hour long power run by 6 p.m. Do what you can, but again, make sure that goal is realistic. If all you get in one day is the walk to and from your desk at the office, that’s okay. Don’t worry about it! Just do the 20 minute walk tomorrow and make sure you fit it in.
6. Find a workout buddy. It is always easier to work out, walk, go to a class, etc., if you have someone to go with and to push you. Ask your partner to walk with you, grab a friend to go to a class with you. It will help motivate you both!
7. Drink a lot of water. Carry a Nalgene or water bottle with you wherever you are, and you will never be thirsty.
8. Cut your normal portion in half. If you usually eat 4 pancakes for breakfast, take 2 instead. It may feel hard at first, but then it will become your standard and you are instantly cutting your caloric intake in half!
9. Don’t punish yourself by completely avoiding treats. Just set a limit to the treats you can have. And it may be a good idea to enjoy it at night so you have something to look forward to, and it serves as a reward for a good day or good workout. One dessert a day is a good benchmark.
10. Eat as many healthy snacks as you want! Carrots, celery, nuts, fruit are all easy to take with you. Reach for those instead of the candy bar when you have the midday cravings.

Let me know if these suggestions work for you. If you would like more easy tips, comment and I can contact you privately. I think you will feel happier and better about yourself this year! i sure hope so.

Good luck and be well!

~Sarah be.

Happiness

Sunday, November 8th, 2009

How many people do you think are truly happy? I bet it’s hardly any. The world is bursting full of beauty, opportunities and adventures, yet loads of people feel stuck in the same ole routine day in and day out; they become complacent and lose desire to prosper is every way possible.

Gandhi explained that his purpose in life was the search of happiness through self actualisation. He believed that by coming the best human being possible, and living a well construct moral life that he would find complete happiness.  He set about his days trying to improve himself, questioning any wrong doings that he made, and orientated his life to benefit others. Can we learn something from this? Do we struggle to find happiness because we are always looking a what we need or want rather than what we already have.

I realised that I had everything even when I had nothing! I didn’t get happy because I had a new car or new item of clothing. I was happy when I was with friends, doing something fun and different or learning something new. These cost hardly anything but they create more happiness than anything materialistic. How many of you get up everyday and think about how lucky you are? None. The majority of people think about what they need. I’ve got a few little pointers that I think can help you become happy :) .

  1. Do something for someone else everyday
  2. Keep your mind feel of constructive thoughts. Don’t think unresourcefully. This could be stuff like ‘he said this about me, she did this..’ Instead, think about your life, what you want, how you can help people, how you can have fun, how you can make a difference, how you can be the best boyfriend or girlfriend possible, how you can get better at what you do.
  3. Adjust yourself to whatever in life so that it always has a positive outcome
  4. Work to love yourself. Stop thinking about the bad and every time you do think of two good things about yourself – eventually you will love who you are.
  5. Have belief in yourself – set goals and work towards them. Remember there is no such thing as failure only lessons that help you become successful.
  6. Try to love and appreciate the free things in life. (this is probably the kind of thing one of your parents would say, but they’ve learnt as they’ve got older what matters).
  7. Smile to yourself.

The way I beat depression

Friday, October 30th, 2009

Keep Smilin'

Little Background

Ok, going make this short and snappy so I don’t send you lot off to sleep :) . I had depression from about 16 – 20 yrs old, so around 4 years in total..maybe a little more. As a stubborn, male adolescent lad I didn’t realise I was suffering from depression – or at least I didn’t own up to it. Depression’s an elusive illness, it consumes you without you even being aware. Day by day you become lazier, moodier and a whole bundle of over things, and then finally it smacks you in the face and you suddenly can’t find any purpose whatsoever in life, you look @ everything and it all just seems pathetic; then you contemplate dying.

So, this is where I got. I don’t really know why, people know how to cope with this and others don’t! At a young age my Dad died, but I don’t think this was the main reason at all, i just think I was destined to have it. I was far too analytical, lazy and to be honest I was quite a selfish person, who had a innate fear of dying. So anyway I could ramble on about possible reasons forever but this is neither going to get me, or you anywhere. What is important is the fact that I overcame it, and by doing so I completely changed my perceptions, beliefs and values, which I would probably boast makes me happier than 99.9% of the population today. And, should depression decide to come back for another little attempt, then I feel pretty damn equipped to kick the little bugger back into shape again.

Beating Depression

This is by no means, a cure for all. I’m just explaining/illustrating that although numerous people that have depression say that they have to live with it, well you don’t, you can do stuff to get over it or at the very least reduce it. I’m not going to lie it takes a hell of a lot of work, but you will get there, and by doing it you will become someone you never imagined you would be.

think about it like this, if you feel so shit that you can’t see the point in life then you technically have nothing to lose. That’s how I looked at it to be honest. I didn’t mind feeling pain, I didn’t mind embarressing myself, I didn’t mind sacrificing going out because I hated going out – and all these things made me get better. E.g I didn’t mind feeling pain because at least I felt something, so I used to do exercise such as running, boxing, rugby anything to rid me of my anger. That’s just one example. But, if you’ve been so low and come through it the whole world looks different and when people complain about menial stuff like the weather you just find it hilarious.

Right, so i’ve rambled a fair bit, ill get to the method. So, the things that helped me get better were:

  1. Exercise (yeah yeah everbody says do it , but I can’t be arsed – just wait ill explain)
  2. Setting goals
  3. Becoming selfless
  4. Thinking positive, or @ at least realistic (not negative)

So that’s it. 4 things! you can do that and ill explain. However you need to do them all together.

  1. Exercise – like i say, if you’re not the kind of person that enjoys exercise then don’t do it because it’s good for you do it because it’s a way you can get angry and punish yourself but in turn you’re doing some good. I used to get really fucking angry about everything, I used hate myself and just wanted to punch myself for feeling this way and not being able to snap out of it. So, when i did exercise I would push myself to the limit and feel the pain that I craved, and dyu know what…..after, even if it was for a short time, I felt euphoric… just a glimpse of happiness that I knew I could get to.
  2. Now this is key, I mean it. When you’re depressed doing the smallest task is ridiculously hard. So what I decided to do was create some goals, and have a year long goal (where I wanted to be in a years time) so that it could focus my mind on something else than what I was depressed about. Everyones unique, some might have goals, for others that feel really low the whole point of goals seems pointless. When you feel like this, like I did, i didn’t make my goals about me – I made my goals about my family and friends. I created goals that would benefit them, because I wanted to create purpose by bringing happiness to other peoples’ lives and make sure they never felt like I did. An example of this would be, say if you’re in university I would learn the text several times (even though I couldn’t be bothered) just so I could help my class mates, or I would cook for my family. These are all small things but they begin to give you the purpose that you feel you have lost. These goals don’t have to be anything like this,these are only for people who don’t have anything they want to do. for those of you who can think of things that they want to do like become a teacher, win a sports competition, travel etc then plan it down and force yourself to do it.
  3. Becoming Selfless- i’ve kind of just touched on this, but I personally felt depression was selfish. I realised I wasn’t thinking about anyone else in a constructive way I was just too concerned with what I was going through and didn’t really give a crap about what was happening to other people because surely their problems weren’t as bad as mine! Because I had got that low I didn’t want to live my life, or leave this world knowing that I have done little for anybody else. And, although this sounds slightly immoral, but when I consumed myself with other peoples’ problems and finding ways to help them, I forgot about my own problems. Then I realised I don’t care its better to be selfish about being selfless than just being selfish.
  4. The finale’. You’re perspection over time has probably become a little skewed. You need to try to become a more positive person. By doing this you will become happier, you will fill your life with good friends, good times, good memories… good everything. Everytime and I mean EVERYTIME you think a negative thought you need to think of a positive, there’s ALWAYS two sides to a coin, thus there’s ALWAYS a positive. Even if this becomes regimented its fine but after so long it becomes natural. Your subconscious learns to be more positve and you just start thinking more positive after so long. This is probably the hardest of the four tasks but i’d say the most important. This really does work. I found it helped to see the more positive picutre in my head too. When I used to think negative, everything was dark and I would imagine people pissing me off, but them I started thinking in brighter colours and look forward to meeting people, imagining meeting them and we’re all jovial and having a laugh. Although this is a typical example apply it to everything.

I’d like to know how people get along, let me know. Also if anything else has worked for anyone else please post it.

“It’s the changes you make today that make the difference tommorow”