User:Hellloooo, never used this site before so don't really know how you help - but I feel like shit at the minute - because im juggling way too many things, have sooo much pressure on and no balance. Don't really get any social time and you might laugh but I haven't had a girlfriend for ages, really want one but cant get the time to do anything. Ahhhh frustrating

Buddy 2:Hey, (love the name btw, sums up your feelings in one word)! We provide support and counselling and can help you with whatever you need, you could even describe what you need from us if you like, and we’ll do our best to try and give you that. We’re definitely not here to judge you or laugh at you though. I can see how it must be stressful taking so much on at one time. Togther, I'm sure we can find a way to regain balance in your life and give you that bit of time you need to socialise. What’s going on in your life which means you don’t get any time to yourself? Are you spreading yourself too thin, or do you have problems managing your time? 

User: Haha suppose it does some it up well, its actually my Nickname. I don't really know what im after I suppose just a alternative view on where im going wrong really and some feedback. I run a small business, which at the minute is struggling financially - like everyone else - but it's occupying all my time trying to keep everything going. Just working, eating, sleeping. I'm not too bad at managing my time, but I am spreading myself a little bit thin to be honest. Really need to find alterior ways of prioritising and balancing what ive got on - i defintely worry too much too. Love the site by the way.

Buddy: Haha my mistake, thought it was just your keep smilin’ name:) Firstly I would like to note the positives, you own your own business which is a huge achievement. It just sounds as though all your hard work is causing too much stress, and you need to actually dedicate some time to relaxing and socialising. Do you do anything now, or have done something in the past which helps to defuse stress? Have you ever tried any relaxation techniques e.g. breathing exercises? Do you work by time management plans or lists to set out your tasks and priorities? Relaxing does take up time, but the time you spend working will probably be more efficient if you do it in a relaxed, balanced state of mind.

User: That's a great point to be honest, ive never thought about it like that. when im working hard and feel stressed out im no where near and focused or efficient as when im rested, so instead of resting and working at 100% im kinda always just cruising at 70%. Think breathing exercisese sound a bit rubbish, but i defintely think time management and looking at alternative ways of relaxing could be a bonus. what do you suggest for relaxation?

Buddy: Fantastic! :) There are loads of ways of relaxing, now we just need to find one which suits your personal taste and can also be fitted in with your lifestyle. Breathing exercises are really effective but if you are put off by the sound of them, it might not be the best idea. Gentle exercise is very effective, this includes yoga, tai chi, swimming, walking or cycling. It will also be good to concentrate your mind on something other than work. Guided meditation CD's are very good, you can pick them up cheap from amazon. It may also be worth looking into alternative therapies like reflexology or aromatherapy. How do you feel about the things I have mentioned?

Buddy: Also, to try out a time management plan, just write down each hour of the day, and slot your tasks into each hour. Give yourself a realistic amount of time for each task, so it doesn't cause any further stress. Also allocate the time you give yourself to relax, and make sure you don't do any work in these hours

User: Hey guys, I have been dealing with depression pretty intense lately. I am 18yr old male and just went off to college. I have dealt with abuse from my dad for a while and about 9 years ago my parents separated because of this. I have always wanted to know what its like to have a father or even talk with a good father. Does anyone have any advice for me? 

Buddy 2   Hi, thanks for confiding in us, we're really glad you've come here. It's completely understandable that you'd feel depressed with what's going on, but let's work together and find a way forward for you. Can I ask you a few things (it's completely fine if you don't feel like answering) What type of abuse have you been experiencing, and are you still experiencing it? Do you live with your mum or your Dad? how have you dealt with it in the past, have you discussed it with anyone?

User: I've learned that being pretty open about it actually helps so i'm fine. When I was about 8 years old I would just get yelled at alot and it wasnt too serious. I would also see my parents fighting alot and that upset me more. I saw them fighting one time pretty bad and I tried to intervene by running outside and ringing the doorbell a bunch. My dad came outside and I ran. he picked up the nearest rock and through it at my head and knocked me out. this was 10 years ago and was the reason why my parents split. this caused alot of financial problems- and i thought it was all my fault.

Buddy: Thanks for your honesty. I’m glad that you’ve realised being open helps you, even though not everyone will be able to take the right attitude with supporting you, this isn’t your fault and all you can do is be open and be yourself. It also sounds like you realise now what happened 10 years wasn't your fault. You seem quite aware of why you feel depressed and that you need someone you can look up to, it just sounds as though getting this is slightly out of your control? Do you find comfort in friends, your mum, or step dad if you have one?

User: Yea I do feel like it's slightly out of my control. Every time I feel depressed I always think that all my dad could have done was be a good dad and I wouldn't have to go through all this. Friends are always there for me to help me forget about it temporarily but i just dont have a friend that would be there for me in this situation, I'd feel like I would just need to grow up and thats probably what they would tell me. My mom is cool about it but theres only so much a mom can do ya know? I wish i had a stepdad but no dice. my dads going for another wife and I dont think he deserves that7 months agoReply

Buddy 2: I hear a lot of resentment towards your dad, are you still in regular contact with him? If so, how does this make you feel? Have you ever told your dad how you feel about what’s happened? Again, what your dad has done is out of your control, however by talking things through more we could find a way to regain control over your feelings and find a solution to what you’re going through. Some people around you just don’t understand these situations if they haven’t been through it themselves so they might not know how to react when you speak to them.7 months agoReply

User: He's done some really cruel things to me and my family and I really do not feel like ever talking to him again. He used to come down every christmas and all the holidays when I'm back from college but after my parents legally get divorced I really doubt he'll come back. It's fine with me. I've dealt with not having "him" around but its still hard to deal with no one being there for me. I just feel unloved and as dumb as that sounds it hits me hard. I just need to talk to someone about this 7 months agoReply

Buddy: So, you think it’s been harder with him coming back and forth, and this is almost unsettling? And there’s a lot of uncertainty about where your relationship is gonna go from here? Even so it’s clear you don’t think he’s capable of supporting you, it might be positive to try and find how and by who you could feel loved and supported by, or simply understood. To replace your dad would be hard, but reaching out to a friend or other member of your family could make you feel more like you’re being heard

Buddy 2 Hi, I'm just touching base following my last message. Just wondering if everythings ok for you at the moment? Or if anything has changed since the last time we spoke? 

User: Things are about the same, just trying to get through. I guess my parents hate eachother right now so they won't even talk to eachother about what's happening. I'm at college right now so it doesnt effect me to much but I still feel lonely knowing I probably wont see my dad again7 months agoReply

Buddy: So you’re saying that you’re away from the place where everything’s happened but you’ve carried your feelings to college. Do you think it would help the situation if you’re parents were able to talk? And you said you feel lonely, are your group of friends back at home then? I’m also wondering if you have ever thought about seeking face to face counselling. It won’t offer you the same kind of love that a parent or friend could give you, but having someone there who wants to listen to you, and gives you the time and support you need might help you a great deal

User:  I try to talk to teachers and people that I could use as role models and stuff but it always turns out bad in the end. for example ill try to talk with them and i guess im too open and attached and it weirds them out, and i lose contact with them, which hurts even more. All I've wanted these past 10 years is just someone that I can talk to that knows alot about being a good father

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 User: Can someone tell me what is wrong with being gay?

Buddy:  I'm wondering why you would think there is something wrong with being gay. Is this something you've been told by somebody else? Or do you personally feel there is something wrong with it? Is this regarding you, or someone you know? This is a safe space, so you can be honest with me and tell me as much or little as you like. Hope to hear from you soon.

User:  Thanks for the reassurance. Im still at high school and i've always known that I like the same sex, even though I wish I didn't. Everybody at school makes a huge thing about the fact that being gay is terrible. I can't help how I feel. Am I weird?

Buddy : It seems like you want direct answers...for me to tell you you’re not weird and being gay is not wrong? I understand it must be really difficult for you to accept yourself and listen to your own feelings and beliefs as others are telling you it’s wrong. What is important is how you feel about yourself, and that we can work together to build up your self esteem. Is there anyone in your family or a friend who you talk to about this and you feel can support you?

User: Not really, I might be able to tell a girl friend, but I really couldn't tell me parents. I hate that it has to be like this. I just want to be myself, but I feel like I have to constantly hide who I am. 

Buddy: Absolutely, your sexuality is a part of you and by not allowing yourself to show that to people you feel like you have to hide. Would you say then that you would like to express yourself in some way? How would you feel about opening up to a friend who you trusat? From what you know about those close to you, do you think they might be able to accept you as you truly are? And finally, why is that you feel you couldn’t tell your parents? I know these are a load of questions in one go, I just need to make sure I know what’s going on for you so I can support you through this.

User: I wouldn't necessary say I want to express myself, i'm not like that, i'm quite reserved. It's not about making a statement for me, its about being true to myself. I think when I tell my friend she'll think im joking, im really nervous. She's quite open so I don't think she would mind in anyway, but it's still scary telling someone. To be honest it will be a big relief. I couldn't tell my parents because they're really conservative and frown upon and mock homosexuality. I;m not too bothered about telling them because I don't live with them - I just want 2 be myself with otha people.

Buddy: I know it must be nerve-racking telling someone for the first time, but it’s great to hear you have someone open who you can trust. Even if one person accepts you, it could go a long way to building up your confidence about your identity. I don’t think I made myself clear in my last message, by expressing yourself I meant being able to open yourself up to people, at least with those who are important to you. How do you feel now about talking to your friend? Is there anything do you think you could do to relax or build up your courage before you talk to her?

User: I think you're totally right with that point, it would probably make me feel greatly comfortable just telling one person... then who knows. I am a little bothered, but I know I need to do it. What do you think is best, should I call her, meet her, what? 

Buddy: That really depends on what you feel comfortable with. Think back to other occasions when you have talked about personal things, did you find them easier on the phone or face to face? It sounds like what’s important to you is being yourself, so you can tell her in any way you like as long as you’re able to do this comfortably enough to show your real feelings. It’s really fantastic that you’re taking the first step towards being comfortable with who you are.

User: find it easier face to face, because I can get their reaction. On the phone sometimes you're left thinking and unsure, especially when you put the phone down. Face to face you can sort it out completely. It is being myself, surely thats what everybody wants. I think it will help when I go to uni too. 

Buddy: Yeah, uni will be a fresh start and possibly you will be able to be yourself more than ever :) It's great that you're already thinking towards the future, and what this experience now might do for you. How would you feel about talking to me a while after you've spoken to your friend? We could talk about the differences you notice in how you feel, or just anything that's emerging for you in general. Good luck...from the sounds of it, it will be a positive experience. Feel free to log on and talk any time 

User:  Thanks a lot.

  Hi, I feel really low and need to get some help. I got made redundant early last year and I still don't have a job, i'm completely skint so can't do anything and its getting to me really bad. 

Buddy: I understand that you're at a low point right now and don't feel as though you can afford to make yourself feel better by doing what you would normally do when feel down. It's great that you've made the first step by getting in touch with me, we can both work together to make you feel better. Do you have anyone who can help you out with money until you're back on your feet? What do you feel is preventing you from getting a new job? Is it actually a job that you really want?

User: Thanks. Well i have moved back with my parents at the minute so I dont have any outgoings as such, but I cant see friends or go out. Yeah, I really need and want a job - I've been the job centre but all the jobs are terrible. Cleaning jobs etc - I dont want to be doing that! I think im struggling to get a job just because everybody is at the minute. I've done a bit of searching and stuff.

Buddy: Of course...you don't want a job you don't think you'll enjoy. It's fantastic to hear you're making an effort, the current climate does make things more difficult, however it is not impossible to find a job you can get a lot out of. There are always new jobs popping up at the job centre so it's worth to keep checking, but I would also suggest searching the net, there are now a lot of companys which ask for online application. What would you ideally like to do?

User I'd love to be a chef, but i dont have any experience and I have a degree in geography!! I can keep applying,but I not too sure that I want to be in a job that I wont be interested in. I'd love to be a head chef, but i dont want to start from the bottom - the pay is terrible and it could take me like 3/4 years till im a head chef. What would you do in my situation?

Buddy: Youre at an instant advantage here as you know what you want to do. Im afraid I cant tell you what I would do, you are unique and whats right for me might not be the best thing for you. But I can support you in whatever feels right for you-its youre choice as to whether its right for you in this moment, and also if its worth the time and effort to work towards doing something you think you will love. You know what you want, now its just deciding whether to take steps towards your goal or choose something with more immediate rewards. How do you feel now? Is it worth the wait?

User:  that's really easy to understand, thanks. I think im always going to want to become a chef, so i probably need to accept that im going to have to start from the bottom, or at least get some qualifications, improving my skills. Im going to start checking for courses or jobs tommorow. Thanks for all your help. 

Buddy: That's fantasic! I'm really glad you've come to a decision, now all you need to do is research you're options. Good luck and let me know how it goes...how do you feel about talking about you're progress in about 2-3 weeks? If you have any other difficulties please feel free to contact me again. All the best! :)

 youyou123  hi there are you free? 

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey there youyou123, thanks for joining. I'm here to help you with anything you want to discuss. Please let me know if there is any way I can help you :)

youyou123  @Buddy 3 Im just quietly depressed I feel like I have nothing to live for. I havent been able to find a job in 3 months, had been to quite a few interviews but never seem enthusiastic enough to sell myself. My dad had a stroke and my mother always blames me for virtually everything! Im finding everday harder and harder. I need money but I also want to escape from living at home and maybe the chance to like someone, I feel quite empty and would love someone to care about me and make me feel special. It was my birthday a week ago and just no one seemed bothered!

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Well let me just say happy birthday for last week :), I know you feel as though no one is bothered but I am here if you ever need to talk. It’s sounds as though there is a lot on your mind at the moment and it’s all getting on top of you. But the good thing is you’ve taken the first step to try and resolve this by coming here, so let’s work together and we can find a way forward for you. First of all well done for applying for jobs, it shows you have a lot of drive. It seems getting a job is quite important to you and by getting a job you’ll have money and you’ll be able to get out more and meet people. So how do you feel about focusing on getting you a job? You mention that you didn’t feel you were enthusiastic enough, I’m just wondering if this is to do with the job itself – did you feel enthusiastic about the jobs you applied for? Is it something you’re interested in? I know you also mentioned that you want someone to be there for you, and this is also something we can work on but I’m just wondering if you have a circle of friends at the moment that you feel can support you? 

youyou123  @Buddy 3 many thaks for your reply...today was a much better day, dad has come home from a stroke and I have been offererd some interviews.. on the job front it is important as I do want to move out and meet new people. I dont know why im unenthusiastic it seems like I dont like anything. Ive been on holiday twice and didnt enjoy the experience, I hate clubbing etc etc thus am never interested when friends ask me. Fortunately I do have a circle of friends but I dont rely on them too much, listening to my problems could scare you for life (trust me lol). I really want to meet an awesome guy and have my first relationship... my best friend is in love and when he talks about his girlfriend I feel lonely as I havent been able to achieve this myself. Instead Im constantly daydreaming about this guy who I met a few years ago who is taken now (he is not right for me). I just want to be happy but I feel hopeless I guess, seems like nothing fufills me .

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey that’s brilliant that you have been offered some interviews! You know I don’t want you to feel that you will scare me, you can be as open and honest as you like - as being open helps you to understand things more :). I can completely understand that you want someone to share your life with but I also know that this isn’t easy. The best way to meet people is to get yourself out - do you have any hobbies that you enjoy doing? The reason I ask this is because this is a great way to meet people or even a boyfriend. But also if you get a new job it will be an opportunity to meet new people as well. So these new jobs that you have found, how do you feel about them? Are they something you’re interested in?

youyou123  @Buddy 3 the jobs are ok but Im dreading that office environment again whereby Im just another person in an office. I find the roles if Im brutally honest boring, I dont think Id be good at it if I am hired......Im getting fed up now because Ive been to a lot of interviews and have had no success- its just very tough. I m not sure what my hobbies are as I like lots of stuff but I am not passionate about any -would love to be good at it but am not too either! Im not on the hunt for a relationship- Im quite a romantic and would love to meet someone randomly, I think thats how I normally fall for someone but unfortunately I havent liked anyone for 2 years now LOL I dunno maybe if I get myself working again I will feel confident again and meet new people, but I must say I wouldnt like anyone Im working with, my job is pretty dull and I dont find guys in my industry attractive.... Ive turnt 23 this year and have never been in a relationship have been on dates but nothing else I feel like a robot can you imagine if I meet someone and they want to know about my past?? How pathetic do I sound? I mean Im glad that I am quite choosey thus do not date just for the sake of it but really am scared Il end up single with a cat.....

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey, it sounds like you need a job that will inspire you – from what I’m hearing this office work isn’t very appealing to you and maybe this is why you don’t feel so enthusiastic in your interviews. What are you good at? I know it’s hard to think about right now but try and think about the things you enjoy – what other jobs do you think you’ll enjoy more? I bet you are good at something :). You’re right; trying to force a relationship doesn’t usually work, it’s better to let fate take its course. I know how hard it can be to meet the right fella but by getting yourself out there and having fun you are more likely to up your chances. You definitely don’t sound pathetic to me and I know a lot of people your age who aren’t in relationships, its completely normal. Some people are lucky and they find someone early in their life, but for a lot of us it takes a while. Also if you meet the right guy he won’t be interested in what’s happened in your past, he’ll just be interested in you :). I know you said you don’t like going out at night, so it’s about finding some other activities that will allow you to socialise and that you’ll enjoy because this is the only way to meet people. What do your friends do beside go out at night? Do they do anything fun during the day that maybe you could do? 

youyou123  @Buddy 3 I dont think Im good or passionate about anything if Im being honest. Im happy I get interviews but Im trying soo hard to prepare for them and trying to sound enthusiastic but they sound soo boring... I would love to be able to say right I would be willing to go for any job but realistically I need the money and a lot of "fun " jobs dont pay much! Do I sound boring if I said I hate that clubbing environment when people drink loads, dance etc??? I hate it but it seems like that is what most people of my age do and that Im a mminority! I have friends who invite me to such places but I try to not go becasue I know Il find it boring and well its not me... maybe I do sound kinda antisocial but I have fun and have friends but just dont fancy that late night clubbing route. I go gym frequently and am trying to lose weight, just hate the thought of getting wasted for no reason! I think I need to sort myself out and my self esteem before I tackle the relationship issue.... I think Im attractive but Im not happy with myself, think I could lose some weight etc etc. BUt how do you meet someone when there are many single attractive females out there who are willing to make a move????

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey, you definitely don’t sound boring by not wanting to go out clubbing, it’s not for everyone. You said you have fun and have friends - what sorts of things do you do to have fun? It’s brilliant that you’re taking an active role by going to the gym; this will help with your self esteem like you said. Having self esteem is key to feeling good about yourself, once you have this things will start to change. I hope you don’t take me the wrong way here; I just want to point out what I am hearing - there seems to be a negative slant on the things you say and maybe this is the reason why you’re not feeling positive about things. Cognitive behavioural therapy is a really good way to help challenge these feelings, have you been for professional help before? It basically helps you to challenge the negative thoughts to give you a more positive outlook on things and will also help you to feel a lot more confident within yourself. It’s nothing serious, it’s a really great therapy, what do you think about trying it? 

youyou123  @Buddy 3 I definitely agree what you have said and know I am quite negative- its the way I have been bought up, my parents are very negative and pessimistic thus I have similar views. I am positive when I have things to be positive about just my situation isnt soo good, I need a job and have had plenty of dissapointing interviews and no result. If Im back on my feet Il think Il start to become more positive and more happier, Il like to give behaviour therapy a try later on. I can go out bars and clubbing but to be honest I feel out of place, there are many attractive girls who are dancing around and well I feel fat and unconfident.... maybe losing weight will solve this problem! Another thing which bugs me is I think my friends don't think Im fun? sure I will go out with them and we have conversations etc but I feel they have more fun when they are with their friends instead then they can drink loads and stay out till 5 am dancing- basically stuff I dont like doing! Im sure things will start to look up for me again, but at the moment I just want to keep to myself and sort myself out first I am depressed I could easily leave this country If I found the right job as I dont think that there is anything holding me back nor to stay for....... I cant explain what Il like to do for fun, as I believe fun things happen when they arent planned, I enjoy travelling and going to events.. trouble with me is that I can get very bored easily which is not good!

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey, you’ve pointed out that being fitter will help you to feel more confident – If you don’t mind me asking, do you go to the gym on a regular basis? The reason I ask is because I know it takes a lot of determination but if you keep at it you will see the benefits. Also exercise is really good when you’re feeling low, you feel more energised and better within yourself. I can see that you really want your life to change but you’re feeling a little stuck. Can I just ask - ideally how would you like your life to be? Try to picture it - What would you like to be as a person? What sort of job would you be in? Who would you be around? What will be different to your life now? 

youyou123  @Buddy 3 i go gym very often but im of a relatively small frame so its hard to lose the excess weight easily.... ive been for a year and no progress! i dunno how i would like my life to change it seems there is alwayssomething letting me down such family members needing me or financial its not possible- think im destined to have change! Well ideally I want a good job that pays well in order to provide for myself and my family, i would love to move out and meet new people from outside my social circle and have my first relationship. i hate to say this but money is f importance to me as I need to provide for other people too.... would love to feel positive but i feel im not progressing in life and want to do better! m of average education and skills what do i do?

Buddy 3  @youyou123 I know what you mean about the gym, it can take a while before you notice the benefits – can I just ask (if you don’t mind) do you have a well balanced diet? Also have you ever been swimming before? It’s a really great way to tone your body as you’re using all your muscles. It’s totally possible to change your life, and you have shown me how you want it to be. I know there is a lot that you want in life, but if we can break this down into more manageable tasks it will be easier to achieve :). It seems the first key thing here is getting a good job, so shall we focus on this goal first? How do you think this can be achieved? I know you said you feel you don’t do particularly well in interviews, but the more interviews you go for the better your chances. How many jobs do you apply for a week? Do you want to carry on looking for office jobs? Forgive me if I am wrong here but am I right in thinking you have had an office job before? If so you obviously did well in the interview then :) what is stopping you from believing in yourself now? 

youyou123  @Buddy 3 I constantly apply, majority of the times I dont hear anything back tho guess the job market is tough. I have an interview tommorow which Im preparing for, Im soo scared, I just cant forget the last interviews I has which were awful. Yes most of my jobs have been office based sadly, it can be quite dire in those environments. Wish you could give me some tips on my interview but Il guess youll receive this message when you are on. I do have a balanced diet but genetically I take after my father whos on the chubby side- unfortunately I cant swim, have been to classes but I find it difficult. Would love to scuba dive but this isnt going to happen anythime soon.... I just want to be happy, hopefully Il get something soon with my new positive attitude and we'll see what happens from then..... :)

Buddy 3  @youyou123 How did the interview go? It'd be really helpful if me and you can have a think about the kind of jobs you really want to do - it seems to me that you get jobs you really don't enjoy! Is there anything specifically you'd really like to do? I think if we can think about this then we can create some direction around what you want to do!?

youyou123  @Buddy 3 It went well actually- been invited to another one but am scared cos im interviewing very senior people. 2nd stage is generally where i fail.... also its very conservative, im not sure I fit in class wise.... Im interested in a lof of things, music, media, fashion etc but then again not enough to do anything about it! I think I would like a job which is in business but in an area of interest .. alot of jobs are very boring just sitting in a desk doing a mundane role!! Working in the entertainment industry sounds brilliant but would be hard to get into.....

Buddy 3  @youyou123 That is fantastic news about the interview! I am really chuffed for you :). If you got a second interview they obviously really liked you! Clearly you have a lot more to offer than you think you do :). You know you can do anything you put your mind to; you just need to have that belief in yourself. When is your second interview? I can see that you’re feeling quite nervous about the second interview but you have gotten this far and you have done really well, so it seems to me that we need to build up your self esteem and challenge these negative thoughts that seem stop you believing in yourself. From what I can see the only person who is negative about yourself and holding yourself back is you. I can see that you’re a great person and also very capable of doing well, but you seem reluctant to put yourself out there and have that belief. I am totally here for you :) and I want you to feel good within yourself. Are you happy to work with me on this?

youyou123  @Buddy 3 my interview bis on fri, trouble is I have a couple of other ones before friday- I want an offer but i want all the positions to want to hire me too so I have a choice- greedy huh? Its tough preparing and i hate interviews mostly because I cant fake my lack of enthusiam! Thank you for your support, i am trying to be more positive and have more brlief in myself. its funny as Ive had some comments from people who have said I undersell myself_ hopefully that wont happen in the interviews!!! I really want to have a job then work on my social life- want to meet new people and hopefully move out etc etc....

Buddy 3  @youyou123 I think it's really good that you're working so hard at getting a job, and understand that this a seriously positive step because it will help with so many other things. It's great that you've applied for several jobs, just becareful you don't spread yourself too thin, and can try to shine in each interview. Don't think about the things that can go wrong in the interview, think about all the things you want to happen like how you want to come across, how you want them to see you, speaking well etc. Please let me know how you get on at the interview.

youyou123  @Buddy 3 Hey, I didnt get the job unfortunately found out this morning. Also have a argrument with my friend. I really want to relocate and start fresh. How do I find someone to support me working in Australia? 

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey sorry to hear about the job interview but you seem determined and something will crop up in the end :). From what you’re saying I can sense there is a strong feeling wanting to escape, is this to do with the argument with your friend? Do you know anybody in Australia? What sort of job would you like to do in Australia

youyou123  I hate being unemployed its really killing me just being at home! I feel soo dumb and useless!

Buddy 3  @youyou123 hey there, thanks for coming back. You're definitely not dumb and useless! I certainly don't perceive you that way :) From what I can see you have been really trying and it will pay off in the end. But I can understand how your situation is making you feel this way. I'm just wondering, are you dead set on getting an office job or is there another type of job that you could get in the mean time while you are still looking for an office job? 

 Hey, I dont want an office jobs but lets be honest I wont be able to do the stuff I want if I dont. I applied to some sports jobs as Im pretty passionate about that area and know I could perform fantastically well but my background and experience doesnt fit the bill so it would be hard. Thank you for your support , its scary as some of my freinds have relocated since finding work is soo had and being indoors suck. What do you do? How do you like your job? Anyway enjoy the England Match!

Buddy 3  @youyou123 Hey, it was a good game :). I understand that experience is sometimes necessary for jobs, but with some jobs they may train you as you're going. Do you have any friends that could give you some good tips for interviews? From what it sound like you seem a lot more enthusiastic about sports - how many sport jobs have you applied for? is there any way of gaining some experience? such as a placement. I know it's not ideally what you want but it could give you the experience you need. If I was honest with you I am looking for employment myself and I understand how difficult it is. It helps to keep yourself occupied with whatever you can and stay positive - being unemployed wont last forever :)